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8 Things to Know About Homeschooling After Public or Private Schooling

 

As a homeschooling mom, teacher and educational consultant, one of the hardest things I ever had to do was pull my children from school. “Why would that be a difficult thing for you?” a lot of people have asked and as I have lived this joruney and reflect daily on the steps I have taken to get to this point, I am able to share my reasons truthfully at this point in my homeschooling journey. Homeschooling, though a beautiful choice for many, can still be very stressful at any point no matter when the decision is made to embark upon this experience.     

When you pull your kids home from school, no matter what age, they have already been exposed to an excessive amount of outside the home exposure to different teachers and children. Along with that exposure came expectations both inside and outside of the classroom which your free spirited children learned to assimilate to, whether they were actually wanting to or not because let’s face it, school is about a number fo things and teaching children to follow rules is one of those things. With that being said, when I pulled my children home at the end of 1st and 3rd grade, I found of course, yes, that they were my children, but a large part of them still were back in school mentally.  It did not help that I was a teacher, so I too was still back in the classroom mentally on top having my own ways of doing things as a human and as their mother so my expectations, beliefs and what I wanted to happen in our homeschool would start with all the best intentions and then go out the door, which I have learned is okay. So deep breaths on that one right there and I will bold this one for us: IT IS FINE IF THINGS DO NOT GO AS PLANNED. 

I have learned through my experience that homeschooling, after having your children in school, will unfold in phases. Like losing something or someone dear to you, there are phases of grief and loss that may accompany children leaving school, esepcially if they have been in a brick and mortar environment for some time. The same is true if you have left your job to homeschool your children so you and your children are having an adjustment period. Think on this, both you and your children are grieving and trying to start a successful homeschooling experience. Just for effect, here are the 5 stages of grief and loss: 1. Denial and isolation; 2. Anger; 3. Bargaining; 4. Depression; 5. Acceptance. People who are grieving do not necessarily go through the stages in the same order or experience all of them, and this idea of stages, which I call phases, is the same with homeschooling your children after them being in school. Likewise, the different phases that accompany homeschooling after pulling your children school may not occur in some particular order, but they will occur.

 Being honest with myself having left my profession of twenty years having performed educational driven duties for all of my adult life, and then stop abruptly to homeschool was very challenging. I brought all of what I was trained to know and in turn believed to be “Best Practices” home to my children who had also been indoctrinated into believing much of what I was actually teaching other students, just not my own children for 6-8 hours a day. This was a disaster! I was struggling with internal dialogue that sounded similar to “Why did I do this?”, “Was this the best option for them?”, “Am I ruining their life?” “Will they learn enough?”, “What philosophy will I adopt and tell people when they ask?”, “I have to put them into every class available for them.” and the list went on and on. I would soon drive myself crazy and my kids in the process if I didn’t slow down, stop the insanity and listen to that small still voice telling me, “It is not your way or your will, by MY way and MY will”. I had to stop and look at who these unique beings were in front of me that I had been chosen to birth and raise on loan for a short time, to ensure they were equipped to fully live out their purpose and passsion for this world. I had to listen to THEM! I had to observe THEM. I did. It was hard to let go and let nature take its course, but I did it. Everyday is different and brings new joys and challenges, but being okay in the present, living in the moment and celebrating small victories make the experience more enjoyable.   

Before I came to this realization, I can remember scouring the internet for hours on end, buying every local museum membership, seeking out all educational discounts, researching curriculum, joining social media and local homeschooling groups if I could find them, starting my own homeschool co-op (waiting lists galore and limited to no diversity in most of the co-ops I found, so I started my own), trying to co-homeschooling with other family members and asking other homeschooling moms what they were doing, how they were doing it and even how to do it. It was a hot mess! I was here, there and everywhere all in one breath. I had one mom in particular do me the hugest favor ever as she got me off my ledge one day at our local library. As she stood over me while I metaphorically puked my homeschool teaching insecurities all over her, she quietly asked had I read some book about teaching from rest.  I was like “nope!” She then told me she would give it to me when she saw me next and that she did. To this day, that had to be the single most beneficial and kindest gesture another homeschool mom has ever done for me because it was SOOOOO what I needed to get me off my ledge. I had to keep my mind in check, my intentions pure and with purpose, and homeschool in authenticity peace and truth.

Without further adue, here are the phases of homeschooling you may experience after pulling your children from school that I have identified in my own experience. You may be able to even add more based upon your own experience, but these areas pretty much sum it up for me to date.

Sara’s 8 Phases of Homeschooling for the School To Homeschool Family

Questioning

Need I say more? This phase is the one that will drive you the most crazy hands down because all you do is question which leads to all of the others listed below. This one right here…..it is the Queen Bee of Mental Yuckdom!

Fear Of

Well, well…Halloween is only once a year yet this Fear thing sets up shop as a legal holiday in the minds of many year round. We give it way too much fuel and then we feed it because we actually entertain it. It is super demonic and a huge liar. Do any of these things sound familiar?

(Fear of: Failure, questions from others, others thoughts, destroying your children and their future, not doing enough, not doing it correctly, etc.)

STOP IT!!!!!! Release fear ASAP and tell it to go back to hell when it tries to return again. It has no place in the minds and hearts of healthy, whole and well functioning home educating families. Fear causes physical unrest and upset, anxiety, depression and self-destructive thought patterns and behaviors which then causes a never-ending cycle. I used to live in a state of constant fear and panic for two years and I know the damage it can do. Your mind is racing a million miles an hour, you’re sleeping horribly if at all, then you’re angry and frustrated and afraid simultaneously and have the audacity to try and be the best you can for your children when you aren’t even your best for yourself. You think they don’t see it, but it’s oozing from every orifice in your body, so fess up. You’ve got a problem, we all have a problem and this is how you intend to fix it. Kids would much rather see you work through something in honesty and with bold or even humble declaration than see you pretending. It’s a much better life lesson to show them how to navgiate through real life.

If not, before too long, you and your family will be zombies calling yourselves homeschooling yet doing it in the most unhealthy way possible. Let it go, relax, believe, affirm, and know that you are more than enough, you can do this and so can your children. This is not a mission, it is a calling with a purpose and YOU CAN DO THIS.

Overcompensation

As a parent who was once a single teenage mom raising a child without the help of an earthly father, I found that I became the queen of overcompensation. I was that mom who went overboard  and created the birthday parties and Christmas’ for one child that was overindulgent and pointless. We are hard pressed to find any of the toys or balloons that were purchased for the birthday parties nor mauch of what was purhcased for many a merry Christmas. I wanted to try to fill in the gap in the presence of an  asbsent father and make my kid happy everyday but especially on those special days. Fast forward to homeschooling and you’ll find a little more of the same with the exception that I was spending way too mauch time driving across town and all over the place to get them to classes I thought they would enjoy and purchasing curriculum that was “grade level appropriate”.  Beware of the need to overcompsensate. As one friend told me who is also in this journey, “Sara, all they really need is you to be present.” That was a serious wake up all. They wanted to sit with me and read together, talk, ask questions, watch fun documentaries, create together, explore and learn together minus the stress of what I THOUGHT was going to yield the best scholarly achievement possible.

Denial and Self-Doubt

Denying that I believed that I doubted that I could actually homeschool my own children, even though I had actually taught hundreds of children and adults throughout my teaching career. As embarassing as it may be, this realization was truly a wake up call. I had to get my mind right and start believing in my ability, ackowledging my talents and being open to not bringing my old school teaching mentality to my kitchen table to teach my children. It was important that the denial turned into destiny and self-doubt truned into self-determination. I was destined and determined to provide my children with a positive homeschooling experience, so I did, I do and I will.

Comparing

Stay off of Instagram and any social media searches that will lead you to looking at what other families are doing in their homeschooling lives. If you need to seek out ideas, be prepared to see representations that will blow your mind! Parents are out there setting up the most beautiful classrooms in their homes and staging things to look super organized and beautiful and that’s fine, but when you first start out, you need to see what’s real. Honestly, you need to see what’s real at all times! Be careful of comparing yourself with other parents you talk to and buying into the belief that everyone else is doing it right and are doing it perfectly and you aren’t.  It’s false. No one homeschools and never loses their temper, or always has a clean home or never questions anything homeschool related. It’s a lie and if they say otherwise, then ta-da….it’s a lie. Just saying… Your homeschool is unique to your family. Period.

Reflection (Will repeat often especially if you want to examine “growth” measures both academically and socially-and that is normal IF that is what you want to do. It is normal if that is NOT what you want to do. There is no NORMAL in homeschooling.)

This is the one phase that most parents do daily both consciously and subsconciously no matter whether you do formal assessments at home (test your kids with pencil/paper testing), standardized testing or have them create their own way of demonstrating they’ve learned something “well” or not so well to you, reflection is always there. Many children reflect because it is natural to do this. That is why they question constantly, because they are thinking constantly. They want to know the answers to things and so do we as adults. They ask aloud and will seek answers. As adults, we sometimes we will keep our questions inside and beat ourselves up about the problem or issue that is pressing us, especially any questions we have about homeschooling.

Sometimes we should ask our children the question to some of the questions we have like “How do you like homeschooling so far?” We just don’t really want to know the answer because we are afraid they will tell us “It sucks and so do you for homeschooling me!” The truth is that the family unit is often strengthened  and children grow in all aspects of human existence through home eudcating whether they wanted to or not, realize it or not. At the end of the day you are their parent for a reason and the positive decisions you make for the benefit of your children are divinely downloaded. Trust in the process be patient and celebrate the journey. It may only be for a season and in nature, seasons do not last long so take deep breaths, know that your family is able to do this even if for a season and all will be better for it. Better to have tried and failed than to have never tried at all.

Another huge part of reflecting takes place by reflecting on your “why”! When you reflect on your why, you are better able to repel the naysayers and all other negativity. Your why is your truth and the truth will set you free. Your why makes sense in midst of everything else because it is light in a place of darkness and confusion. Knowing that you are waging a war that is not your own but that you have a Heavenly Father who can rescue and protect you from the fiery darts of life makes the pill easier to swallow, the knowing that you are never homeschooling alone. I have asked God to help me to know what to teach my kids, to show me what they need and HE did. Since that doesn’t happen very often, it’s best to heed the call immediately and do exactly what you are instructed or I say “divinely inspired” to do. *Disclaimer…yep, you may find I go off on a spiritual tangent for Jesus-God from time to time. Be forewarned people! *

Acceptance: Keeping your mind right on thoughts that which is true and pure.

Voice your victories! State out loud the victories with your family and all that you can do and have done as a result of homeschooling. Journaling them out, putting one small victory in a jar each day and reading them at the end of the week can be such an uplifter! You can do and all things through Christ who strengthens you. You are victorious through Christ Jesus and so it is that you are able and wonderfully made able to live authentically in your purpose with passion and perseverance. Does this mean perfection? Absolutely NOT! Do this thing called life and do it well to thebet of your ability. Your children will be better for it because they observe you modeling how to live authentically and they will do the same even if in pockets of time, your life and homeschooling will not return void. Accept that you can home educate and that it will not be easy or hard. It will be what you declare it to be and that is how it will unfold before you daily. You are the creator of your homeschool destiny and the mindset you place upon it will dictate the outcome. Speak life over your homeschooling experience and do what you can. When you need help, ask for it, look for it, help is there. Never doubt that this can be a success. It can be and it will be. That is what you say and accept.

Living it Out

Live your homeschool journey with pride, perseverance, purpose and passion. Be bold and brave, fearless and hopeful. As long as there is life, there is hope. As long as there is hope, there is life and your homeschooling choice is one that can work well for you and your family. Stay true to your “why” and know that your effort will not return void. 

These phases are not unique, but may exhibit themselves differently for each family. Work hard to concentrate on things that bring you and your family happiness throughout the homeschool experience. Don’t be too hard on yourself or your children and welcome each new day as a day to try again unapologetically knowing you are doing and giving the best you can.

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Help! I’m Overwhelmed With My Homeschool Day!

Help me! I’m Overwhelmed With My Homeschool Day

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Dear Homeschool Mom,

Feeling overwhelmed is a natural feeling when you are homeschooling. True story is that I get overwhelmed with my homeschooling and the fact that I was a teacher for many years had little bearing on the effectiveness of my homeschool. I had two children looking to me to supply them with something that I realized was not necessarily for me to be providing. They were different ages and grade levels with different interests and learning styles. They required different things from me and they wanted it instantaneously. I realized early on that there were a few things I learned early on about having some sense of “control:” in my homeschool. 

  1. A schedule may not be the best thing for my family
  2. A schedule may be the best thing for my family
  3. Flexibility is key 
  4. Listening to my children was key to helping make our homeschool work after all it was for them not for me
  5. Combining subjects and not being concerned about specific grade levels or what other folks were doing was great
  6. I cannot homeschool with other families 
  7. Being selective with what we did during our homeschool journey was important, that is the importance of guarding our time was obvious, but not after I had spent a crazy amount of time and money building a homeschool co-op from scratch while homeschooling. Note to self: #crazy
  8. Be mindful to crash the chatterboxes. Ignore that which does not serve you. 

9.  Teaching children who are multi-aged is possible: An example of something I do with my children is: give them freedom to work on what they want to work on at their own pace and let me know when they need help. If I am with the other child, they can make note of what they want to ask and wait for me to get to them.   

There’s good news to share with you about homeschool scheduling. The good news is that if you are a homeschool mom who thrives on structure and has children who thrive on structured learning times, then this is for you. The other good news is that successful scheduling can happen for you! Like most things in our lives, you will need to plan your schedule and give it time to work.  

Scheduling your homeschool can be as easy as you make it or desire it to be. The trick is understanding that you do not need for your school to function like a traditional school (which is why I do not care for the word home”school”) because anyone who has done it knows that it can be a vast contrast from a traditional brick and mortar school system. With that in mind, these are a few things to guide you with your homeschool scheduling.  

Be Selective:

You do not need to teach numerous concepts within a day though you can still get through a number of subject areas within a week or even a month. 

SAMPLE SCHEDULE 

Monday: Math & History 

Tuesday: Geography & Grammar & Math 

Wednesday: Community Classes (I.e. library, museum or co-op)

Thursday: Spelling & Art & History 

Friday: Health & Math & Grammar

*Note: Reading and writing are interdisciplinary and engrained within the entire learning process. If you would like to incorporate separate learning times for specific writing and reading instruction then by all means do what you find to be best for your children. The other point that I have heard many families share is that they do not conduct formal spelling lessons. There are programs we have used and friends have suggested such as All About Spelling, Logic of English (Spelling Rules) and formal grade level spelling workbooks have all found their way into our home.  

Project Based Learning:  Homeschool families who embrace and practice project based learning have found that this method to be helpful in helping address multiple content areas and provides leverage for children in the area of planning, reflecting and presenting information.  Project based learning is so cool because like I think all home education should do, it gives children voice and choice. 

Thematic Units: There are many themes for each month of the year and if you check out things that happened this day in history, you can find a theme for every single day! 

February is one of the most popular months but besides that, you are able to create themes based upon your children interests. I always suggest going that route or selecting something that your family and children are totally interested in learning more about. 

Self-Directed Education: Democratic “School” of thought: Children are able to moderate and do what drives them, what they are passionate about and what speaks to their heart.

Children are leaders and decision makers, inquirers, thinkers they are also:

  • Communicators
  • Principled
  • Reflective
  • Open minded
  • Balanced
  • Risk-takers
  • Inquirers
  • Caring
  • Knowledgeable

Creative Freedom- Have fun with your planning! Think of doing things that your children would most likely not be able to do anywhere else.  Wear costumes, write family plays, perform the plays, pitch a family business to friends and  You are free to have as much fun as you’d like in planning and in teaching. You and your children are learning together. 

Relax: One thing my homeschool mom friends often remind me of is that I am only “behind” if I think that I am. The reality is that homeschooling is so flexible that I can actually complete school work in the evenings, on the weekends.  

By far, scheduling is one of those homeschooling subjects that families either love or hate, but no matter what you decide to do, it’s awesome to just work with the rhythm of your family and do what comes naturally for you and your children. 

Did this episode resonate with you? What do you do for scheduling? What has worked, what hasn’t? Let me know. 

Reach out on social media @dearhomeschoolmom or at dearhomeschoolmom.com 

As always, embrace the process and celebrate the journey. Happy homeschooling

Best Always, 

Sara

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The Working Homeschool Mom

 

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It is easy to feel as though the world is passing you by when you are a homeschooling parent. But what about when your family life is passing you by?  As a home educating parent who enjoys providing rich opportunities for my children, staying relevant in my profession and running a business, things can sometimes not be as easy to navigate as once anticipated.  It is easy to fall into the trap of not running my business but allowing my business to run me. If I am  not attentive, my children can suffer academically and emotionally.  I was raised by a single working mother who also attended night school for ten years. Though I was not a home educated child, I missed having her present at home with me to check homework, ask me about my day or just sitting with me and discussing things that were going on in my day. I was determined to never have my children feeling the way I felt in the absence of my mother during those important years of my life. She was doing the best she could, but are we, as homeschooling moms, business owners or moms working outside of the home, doing the best we can to be attentive toward the needs of our homeschool? During this podcast, I will chime in on the idea of running a successful homeschool and business simultaneously minus the array of emotions that often accompany this arduous journey. Know that you are not alone in this. Other homeschool moms reach out to me often requesting strategies for best supporting their business or job while homeschooling. Here is my open letter to these amazing mom’s. 

 

The Working Homeschool Parent

Dear Homeschool Mom,

Are you an entrepreneur or working from home? Perhaps you are working outside of the home and someone trusted is guiding your child in their education while you are at work. I have received countless comments from homeschooling mom’s who are feeling overwhelmed, guilty and question if they are providing “enough” for their child because they are working homeschooling parents.

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Feeling guilty about working is never okay. You are doing what you need to do in order to help provide for your family. You are a role model for your child and they are watching you build a business or work a business that demonstrates work ethic, prioritizing, business acumen, making mistakes, learning lessons and any number of content area skills that promote higher order thinking, synthesizing information and evaluating concepts. You may be unknowingly teaching your children some of the most valuable lessons in the world. You are a powerhouse that is not feeling so powerful some days, especially if you are not being as present for your children as you may like. 

Do any of these sound familiar? 

1.) not being organized (Disorganization)-business, homeschool and home

2.) Not guarding your time (Time escapes you quickly)

3.) Not believing in yourself (Self-doubt)

4.) comparing yourself with other (The comparison game)

5.) Being unintentional (Loosey goosey)

6.) Forgetting about yourself (Putting yourself second)

7.) Pleasing others (People pleaser)

8.) Following the crowd (being a follower and not a leader) 

9.) Beat up on yourself , 

10.) Holistically Out of control and out of balance. 

11.) Overly Sensitive  Allowing someones actions to dictate or cause your reaction. 

12.) Busy Work (Giving your children learning material that is “easy” for grading but not necessarily planned out by you or them and not academically enriching)

Often times it is easier to pretend nothing is wrong and embody the belief that everything is everyone in your camp is okay when in fact, they are suffering as you run your business. You may not realize it but in your your quest to achieve goals and manifest success, 

 you may be actually neglecting your family for your business. This can most easily be summed up in one word: neglect. Spoiler alert: this is a little lengthy but so worth the read. This may be a hard blog to get through but there is hope contained within the read. 

The Neglect Mistake 

Neglectful behavior patterns can cause emotional distress in your children and can also take on a form of abandonment. For some working moms, that may look like providing their children learning material that is convenient but not necessarily rich or powerful just to ease their own sense of guilt and provide a false sense of security believing that their children are learning, but are they thriving? It is so very important to recognize when you are ignoring your child’s academic needs.  This is always apparent when you observe and check the work they are doing whether it is a project or a workbook. 

This pattern of neglect can be detrimental to not only the emotional health of the child but to their academic success. For the parent who is working from home a sense of guilt may quickly be eased for themselves so they do not feel bad, is replaced with an attitude of any of the following: I’m doing it for the family, they are young enough that by the time they are older they’ll understand why I did it, the when they are old enough to understand the difference between having and not having, we will have if I make this sacrifice right now. Explaining the situation to the children may seemingly suppress and soothe the parent initially-at the onset, but children often say they understand or it’s “okay” to please the parent, not because they truly mean it, but they love you and do not want to make you feel bad. 

Parents who work from home are usually emotionally convicted early on in the homeschool journey with the realization that something is not working.  Being attached to your business is natural because after all, work is usually a high priority.  There can a balance in balance and family life when you make the decision, the choice, to give equal time to both. Even if that does not happen fully, you may be surprised at how close you can come to creating the balance. Sometimes running a business makes you selfish and blinds you into believing you are present and providing quality attention and care for your family. Business and work can be sneaky and trick you into paying more attention to it than your family and then causing you to be burned out, then needing time for yourself and perhaps leaving your family to need you even more.  Don’t get me wrong, self-care is number one on our list as mom’s, but being public enemy number one at home can make for a miserable home life. 

Determining boundaries early on for your business and designing a schedule for both your homeschooling and business is imperative. Your children should not feel like second fiddle or feel that your work is more important to you than they are and there are many great ways to demonstrate their importance to you. Recognizing when you are ignoring your child’s academic needs is paramount. This may look like the parent who purchases workbooks year after year not because they are truly teaching their children but because it is convenient and easy for the parent. No planning involved and trusting that the topics covered within the workbooks will take care of everything. It will not most likely. Therefore, we will discuss a bit more that can be done to prevent this slump from occurring in your homeschool. 

Children observe  their parents and emulate everything about them the good and the not so great. This emulation ranges from dispositions to handwriting, dietary choices, clothing, hair, to business acumen, communication skills and friendship choices. It is important to provide avenues for your children to be able to explore opportunities outside of the household so that if they are naturally inclined to take on or become all that their parents are, it was a natural progression not forced upon them indirectly because it was all that they were exposed to. You want your children to be able to answer the question “Who are you” aside from simply stating their name, but to be able to answer the question for themselves holistically both intrinsically empowered by their answer and pleased with the outcome of its honesty through the product. 

 

Here are a few tools that may help alleviate the negative emotional baggage that can come along with being a working homeschool mom and support your family in the process. 

1. There is beauty in the planning.

So we all know that if you fail to plan you plan to fail so goes the old adage. The truth could not be more accurate than when you are a working homeschool parent. Working moms know that planning is in the preparation and that planning empowers and positions us for greatness.  Planning needs to be especially organized with dates, preferably planned out for the year on a calendar. Provide a working calendar/planner for your children so they can be accountable, expectations are shared and they are aware of what is being covered. You are not the only planner in a homeschool. Your children are master planners event the youngest ones as they are able to share exactly what they want to learn with you. Though homeschool philosophies and methodologies of teaching vary, organization is always key. Keeping track of what your children are doing helps you to know that they are in deed learning. Have you considered a true teaching co-op that supports the needs of your children or joining another homeschool mom who would not mind teaching your children for you? Need help or more ideas? I am available to assist you as are other homeschool moms within your tribe. We are here to help get your homeschool year organized! 

2.  Intentionality 

Being intentionally present, mindfulness, listening to your children and providing meaningful feedback. (On any and everything is so very important). Giving them your full undivided attention intention is important to them. So set a time aside (many times aside) for that specific purpose. What about spending time with you children when they think you are supposed to be working? A day spent with fun and things that the children enjoy.  What if you cannot take a day off?  Here are a few ideas!

3. Little Things, Big Results

When you cannot take a day off, small things equal big things in the eyes and hearts of children, especially when it comes from Mom. 

Let’s consider the following…. 5 Things You Try Can Do Today 

  1. Cooking A Meal Together 
  2. Play Games together

3.  Write letters to each other. For an added touch, leave small notes around the house in areas the children frequent and may most likely find them.  

4. Include your children in your business or help them to start their own

Your business is not their business and vice versa but providing them with a framework to learn business acumen alongside you may thrill them! 

5. Project Based Learning Family Style! Learning alongside your children is always rewarding. Consider working together as a family on a specific project. Maybe having different roles in the planning or doing research together and creating a project and sharing it with others as a culmination, might be a fantastic opportunity to connect and build greater relationship within your homeschool. 

5.  Be humble and apologize

Let your family know that nothing is more important than they are. Period. Business is consuming and important, but children are only young for a season and this homeschool experience is is once in a lifetime opportunity.  

The possibilities are endless when it comes to planning intentional and fun activities with your children. Creating both mental and physical space to provide opportunities to balance your business and family life is key to your peace of mind and a bountiful homeschool experience. 

Hopefully todays episode resonated with you and you feel supported and know that you are not alone in being a homeschooling working mom. 

You can follow me on social media @dearhomeschoolmom and visit my website dearhomeschoolmom.com for the latest blog posts. 

As always, embrace the process and celebrate the journey. Happy homeschooling

Best Always, 

Sara

 

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Tug of War: Top 3 Signs That the Tide is Changing In Your Homeschool and What To Do About It

Dear Homeschool Mom,

Did the title peek your interest? I deliberated what the title of this blog should be and decided that the “changing tide” would be a great description for what happens within any number of homeschools around the world. The old adage states things happens for a season, a second or a lifetime and another one shares you’re either in a storm, in one or coming out of one. Storms, tides and seasons may be adjectives to describe your homeschool now, in the past or in the future.

A number of moms have shared their concerns about not being at a place where home education is feeling uncomfortable and they are feeling torn about things that occur naturally within a homeschool environment. They feel like the tide is changing in their homeschool, do you? Here are the top 3 signs that the tide may be changing in your homeschool and what you can do to best accommodate the shift.

  1. Your children are getting older
  2. You no longer enjoy home educating
  3. Children are miserable

Do any of these 3 “tide changers” resonate with you? Let’s be clear that these tide changers do not mean that your home education life is over, nor does it mean that you are failing at home educating your children. What it means is that it is time to partake in honest reflection and asking the  hard questions in order to make the best decision for your family.

  1. If your children are getting older, ask what is best serving them currently during this time in their lives. Is what you are providing them providing what they need in order to fulfill them? Think about your philosophy of education and what your children want and most importantly again, what they need. Have the conversation with them and as a family.
  2. Are you absolutely burned out and the thought of ordering another curriculum, creating a unit, explaining another concept or taking yet another homeschool field trip brings heightened anxiety level and you to tears? Maybe you never wanted to formerly “teach” your children in the first place or the thought os being the “teacher” was so NOT what you had in mind. Then it is totally fine to examine your feelings, ask why you feel how you are feeling and make the move to do what makes the most sense and is in the best interest of your family.
  3. Enough said for miserable children. Miserable children make for miserable parents and vice versa. So how can you homeschool if you and the children are miserable? Identifying the disconnect and examining the matters of the heart can make a world of difference.  Getting support from family and friends, homeschool support resources and most importantly listening to your children may provide you with the insight needed to guide you to the next logical steps in gaining clarity and discovering the best way to turn misery into contentment.

When the going gets tough and the battle is on with the mental tug of war, take a few deep breaths, give yourself all the credit in the world for giving it your best and be open to examining the changing tides and keep riding the wave.

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